Second Parent Adoption

We got a hold of an attorney this weekend that does the second parent adoptions and I was shocked at how much it costs. It makes me sad to know all that money that could be going to something else like savings or a new roof is going to these people so that I have the same rights as a heterosexual married couple. They have to even come to our house and do a home check not only once but twice. What I don't understand is that C is having the baby and there is nothing that they can do about where the baby is going to live anyway. I guess that is why we ALL need to vote for same sex marriage. I was hoping to have two or three kids but if we have to pay 5,000every time I don't know if this would be possible. It would be hard to save for emergency funds, adoption funds, and just life with a family. We have a consultation with the attorney in a couple week I will keep you posted. I feel good about our attorney getting everything approved they do all of our county's same sex couple second parent adoptions. They did tell us though that there is going to be a new judge in 2010 and they are not sure who it is and if they will be friendly to this matter or not. I don't know what we will do if not. I guess we will find out.

-V-

As you read in the last blog C got to hear the heart beat today. I am very bummed I didnt get to go. I work in a dental office and I already had the day booked so I didnt take the time off. I already blocked out the time for the next visit so I can hear the heart beat too. C finally told her side of the family and they all took it well. Her Grandma and Grandpa live about 25 minutes away and they decided to move back to LS so they can be close to thier great grandbabies. So last weekend we looked at a few houses with them. They have it narrowed down to two places, I think they are going to put thier bid in on Thursday. They are so sweet I love them like my own. C's Dad was also excited he made her go right over to her other Grandma.

We also found a baby sitter just two blocks down from us. She is only going to take 3or 4 kids. She has been helping out with a neighbor watching kids and now she wants to start her own. She is 49 and her kids have graduated and she said she didnt want to look for a job in these crazy times and she enjoyed wathching kids now that hers are gone. I like that her kids are not young that way ours will get the same treatment, no favorites. We told her we were a same sex couple and she said she didnt care about that. So we are very happy. She said she walks by our house at seven everyday with her husband. So one day C and I pretended to be doing stuff in the yard right around seven so we could meet her. They seem to be very nice.

-V-

First prenatal

Today was my first prenatal appointment. Wednesday of this week we will be 10 weeks along. The best part about the appointment was hearing the heartbeat! It makes this pregnancy thing feel real. Other than feeling like complete crap I wouldn't know there was anything going on there. My doctor and her staff are super nice. I will see some of the other doctors for prenatals just incase my doctor isn't there for delivery I suppose. That would be a bummer, but in the grand scheme of things maybe not a big deal. Morning sickness has hit hard in the last three weeks. It is actually all day sickness. I seem to beable to control it as long as I have food every couple of hours but its not foolproof. No cravings yet, but I assume those will come along next trimester when the nausea goes away. I have been trying to keep up with exercise. I have done a strength and conditioning class 2 days a week for over a year now and it has gotten so tough! Prior to becoming pregnant I was running a couple of miles a day but not consistently-maybe a couple times a week at the most. I have ran 2 times since BFP. Maybe this is something else that will turn around in the 2nd trimester. I am not sure I care. I will just do the best I can and hopefully resume my prior level of fitness post pregnancy.

So overall everything is going smooth and as expected. Oh-we purchased baby bed and dresser. We will post pictures once everything is put together.

Update

Well here we are at 7wks 1 day. I guess everything is moving along as it should. Our Little Bumpkin is already grounded upon arrival for making his/her mommy sick and exhausted. I can't decide what's easier to tolerate. The complete exhaustion that plagued me the first few weeks or the rolling waves of nausea that came from nowhere last week. The thing about the nausea is that it isn't constant. And I am learning to keep some form of food in my stomach which seems to keep it at bay.
My true first doctor appointment isn't until August the 10. They did get me in the day after our first BFP to do their own test and sent me to the lab for blood work. That was pretty uneventful. I really have no idea what happens on the 10th. I know we have to go over financial stuff and I have to be there 30 minutes early for that. I am sure we will hear a heartbeat that day as well. I called earlier this week to see if we would have an ultrasound that day. V would like to be there for that. The receptionist told me that they don't do US in their office, they send patients out for that. Well, WTF? Is this standard? It took me by surprise. We do have a "friend of a friend" who apparently can do an US for us anytime we would like.
We have told all of our bosses and coworkers as well as most of our family about our pregnancy. I have not yet told my father or grandparents. My plan is to tell them before this first trimester is up. I am not really concerned whether my father likes it or not. I just fear that if he doesn't like our news he will take it upon himself to inform my grandparents before I am ready. (which is what he did with my brother)I believe that my grandparents will be happy and accepting of our pregnancy, but there is a teeny, tiny bit of doubt that is holding me back. They mean the world to me and I don't want to deal with their disappointment or rejection.
We have also decided to start researching caregivers as early as possible. I will have to go back to work unfortunately. I feel like I need the adult and work environment stimulation anyway but it would be nice the have the option. We would like to find an in home daycare close to our home so we can limit drive time and pop in at lunch, as both of us come home for the lunch hour. We have a few numbers to call. I am a bit anxious about finding a caregiver who is friendly towards same sex families. Maybe I should have a little more faith? We will see how it goes.
We have started taking belly pics. First time we see evidence of a bump I will post. But not until then! They are horrible!

the long long long wait

Who ever said it will be here before you know it must not know me to well. I think I might be the most impatient person in the world. It has only been five days since we got the positive test and I feel like it has been forever. This weekend was great since it was the fourth everyone was around for us to share the news. I think I got to tell two people the rest I guess heard it through the grape vine. C told her brother but she is holding off until the second trimester to tell her family. We went to a KC Royals game on Friday, we lost but I still love to go to the games. That is one of the first things I want to do with our little bumpkin is take them to the game. I seen the cutest hat I should of bought. Maybe next year the Royals will make it to the world series and their littlest fan can cheer them on!

-V-

Here we go!

We got our first BFP on Wednesday July the 1st. Completely unexpected. We tested on Sunday the first time with a BFN and accepted it. Then V started manipulating the numbers and found that we tested waaaay to early. We knew that our 2 weeks wasn't up, but our test said we could try 2 days before my next period with 90% accuracy. But again our numbers were all off so there we were with a BFN. Move forward to Wednesday. I walk in the door on lunch break and V is waiting with a test in hand and I took it first thing. To our surprise is was positive. So now our lives are going to change forever. We do remain cautious in our enthusiasm. We know that the MC statistics aren't friendly. I don't really have many symptoms. I am sleepy in the evening. To the point where I could nap. I hate naps! I think I have less of an appetite, but I think that could be the nervous/excitement feelings I have about this. We found out a few weeks ago that my SIL is pregnant and due in January. We are due the second week of March so we will have them close together. This is my brother and SIL who just had a baby ( my 1st nephew) last August. Yes. Two babies in a year and a half. And she was told she couldn't conceive because of her polycistic(sp?) ovaries. We are very excited for them and excited that our baby will have cousins so close in age.

So. Here we go!

Now the wait

So far so good! We did our first insemination Wednesday and had a positive OPK that next morning. Our donor found out that he wasn't being sent out of town so we went ahead and did our second insemination last night. Our doctor wanted us to do it two days in a row but all of the books we have been reading tell us with a fresh donation to skip a day. So I hope we didn't jump the gun. I feel like we did the right thing for this cycle. I don't know if this is a sign or not but this morning when the alarm clock went off the only thing i heard was "Welcome to pregnancy" and I hit the snooze button. How weird is that? Now I just sit here thinking what if. What if the dogs are sad? What if I lose my job? What if the baby colicky? What if? What if? What if? I am so excited but also so scared at the same time.

-V-